Friday, May 9, 2014

More on the mistreatment of LGBT Community Members

It was brought to my attention that in my last post I did not go into this beyond my own experiences. While my own mistreatment by my family is a good example let's look further.

Many, if not most, people are raised to believe that being anything except "straight" is "bad" or "wrong" or even "evil" or "sick". Personally I believe this is where the mistreatment begins. Parents give their child the idea that they are these things if they do not like the "right" gender or just the one, opposite, gender.  I am sure most of us in the Community knows how damaging this is to a child's self-image. Parents who do not discuss "right" gender attention, or even gender associate (such as "boy" colors vs "girl" colors) find they tend to have much healthier (mentally and emotionally) children.  It starts very young.  A parent that tells their son not to play with dolls or tell their daughter not to play with cars or super heroes is telling their child that what they like is wrong. This leads to children wondering what is "right" about themselves.  This sets the child up to be uncertain in anything they are left to decide on their own. They then tend to let others tell them what is the "right" thing to do. That is how peer pressure was invented. By the first parent that told their child what they liked was wrong leading to the child not knowing what to like. Because different families can have different values this leaves the child open to doing the "wrong" thing. Wrong to the parent and sometimes the law.

As a LGBT youth grows up they either suppress who they are to where they really don't know anymore, or they pretend which leads to the hurting of others. It can also lead to them bullying those that are far more comfortable with themselves. A self-hate which they project onto others to ease their own confused pain. Parents must learn to be more accepting otherwise this cycle will never end.

On the same line of thinking, parents of straight children who teach their children that being LGBT is the above mentioned things set them up to ostracize their peers for being who they were born to be. The torment experienced in late elementary, middle, and high school can be as simple as name calling to property destruction to as severe as physical harm or even death. Be it at the hands of the other children or themselves.

As adults those brought up to hate or fear the Community tend to write laws that are unfair, continue the name calling, harassing and even worse. When I say worse I mean cornering a gay man in an alleyway and beating him to death. Or raping a lesbian to "teach her to love it". "It" being sex with a man instead of a woman.  Though very rarely reported there have been gay men raped by angry women who are trying to "fix" them.  There is nothing to fix, for we are not broken. There is nothing more wrong with us than straights. We all suffer the same illnesses, the same daily struggles with finances and worries. We all just want to be loved and accepted.  In countries outside the US they are passing laws to make genocide of the LGBTs in THEIR countries legal. Anyone caught being LGBT is labeled a criminal. Not that long ago gays in the US were labeled criminals for acts performed withing their OWN homes. They were sent to jail if there was proof they were having physical relations with their partners. It did not matter that both were consenting adults. It was "wrong" so they had to be punished.

Religious people will be quick to point out in the Old Testament it is said that it is a sin to lay with man as with woman.  Yet, in the entire Bible there are more references to the sin of Divorce than that of being gay. It was pointed out to me that Solomon and David (I believe) were blessed in their union by God.  If anyone knows this reference please share it.

People are tormented, tortured and killed daily just for loving people. It should not matter if they are Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, Straight, Bisexual, Gay, Lesbian, Transsexual, Cross-dressers, or whatever. What should matter is that they love instead of hate.

My dear readers, please. Teach love and acceptance. Not hate and fear.


  1. I respect your opinion, but crime happens to all people. Gay or not. I attend church and most believe marriage is between a man and a women. I know no one who does not accept gays and I live in a state which celebrates gay rights and sanctions gay marriage. I as many others I know have gay friends and accept them for who they are. They I believe accept my feelings on marriage. All this why sitting next to me at church.

    As in society there will always be those who won't accept others whether it is because they are blue, green, purple, poor or yes gay. It's the way society works.People will hate just to hate. But gays, blues. greens and purples have the same rights as everyone else in this country. Yes, they have the same rights as a middle class white male, the real minority in this country.

  2. I do not get you at all. You ask me to write more about this and then you talk down on it. I really don't understand your acceptance of negative aspects of the world. The world can change. People just need to have hope and TRY. It is people who say oh well its always been that way and always will that allow the perpetuation of the cycle of hate.